Jun 2, Warner Bros. Ben Affleck Neil. Jennifer Aniston Beth. Drew Barrymore Mary. Jennifer Connelly Janine. Kevin Connolly Conor. Bradley Cooper Ben.
Ginnifer Goodwin Gigi. Scarlett Johansson Anna. Kris Kristofferson Ken. Justin Long Alex. Ken Kwapis Director. Abby Kohn Screenwriter. Marc Silverstein Screenwriter. Nancy Juvonen Producer. Drew Barrymore Executive Producer. Toby Emmerich Executive Producer. Michele Weiss Executive Producer. Michael Beugg Executive Producer. Cliff Eidelman Original Music. John Bailey Cinematographer. Cara Silverman Film Editor. Gae S. Buckley Production Design. View All Critic Reviews Apr 27, He's Just Not That Into You boasts a playful premise and strives to be critical and satirical of the rom-com genre it attempts to distance itself from, however inevitably becomes what it wants to parody and succumbs to a jangling bag of stereotypes and far too many filler characters.
Unfortunately this means that talented actors who clearly give good performances unfortunately fail to make much of an impression. Other than that, it has its fair share of funny moments and several of the characters are relatable enough that it is definitely watchable. Harry W Super Reviewer. Jun 14, He's Just Not That Into You is a smart and funny romantic comedy that's based on a bestselling novel.
The film follows several interconnecting stories of romance as the characters find themselves dealing with different aspects of relationships. The writing is especially good, particularly in how it weaves the stories together and develops the characters without any of them feeling short changed or under used.
So, yeah, this is a self-help book, not a novel. View all comments. Jul 30, Rose rated it it was amazing Recommends it for: every young woman Shelves: feminism , non-fiction , top If loving this book is shallow, then I don't want to be deep.
It's a really fucking simple concept, and it's entirely encompassed in the title. In fact, I love how the title totally sounds like it's uber harsh.
In reality, telling you that "he's not really that into you" is about the nicest thing someone can do to you! This isn't high literature by any stretch of the imagination take the cue from the bright fucking pink cover , but the concept is so important to young women that if I ever have a If loving this book is shallow, then I don't want to be deep. This isn't high literature by any stretch of the imagination take the cue from the bright fucking pink cover , but the concept is so important to young women that if I ever have a daughter, I'm going to instruct her to read this before she goes away to college.
In some senses, you actually have to have gone through a few breakups to "get" it, but there's also infinite value in understanding this before you throw more of your youth after indifferent men. In economics, it's known as "throwing good money after bad money". Reading this after your first or second bad breakup is probably a perfect time.
To be sure, the last few chapters could just entirely be omitted, because they had gotten into the territory of repeating the same idea over and over. And there were some slightly regressive ideas about never pursuing a man in there too. But I think that the author brought those up just to emphasize the point: you shouldn't be breaking your back to make something happen if the guy refuses to be more than lukewarm about you.
I'll take the few regressive ideas with that intention. If you've ever sat by the phone, or some facsimile thereof, read this book. It's light: it'll only take you a couple hours. View all 5 comments. Aug 27, Thomas rated it liked it Shelves: nonfiction , own-electronic , read-on-kindle. Such a revelatory book for anyone who has been neglected, ghosted, or given mixed signals by a man. Despite some of the book's repetition, I love how the authors emphasize their central message of recognizing your self-worth and refusing to settle for someone who makes you doubt yourself.
Essentially: do not settle for a man or any human who makes you wonder if he or they likes you. Do not settle for a man whose intimacy issues or substance use problems or lack of communication skills forces you to do all the emotional work. He's Just Not That Into You advocates for never settling and for only engaging in relationships with people who care about you and can show it.
I wish the authors of this book had expanded the depth of their writing. I saw so much room for addressing how oppressive gender roles affect intimate relationships - the authors could have talked about how toxic masculinity robs men of the tools they could use to cultivate fulfilling, deep relationships.
The book also felt super heteronormative and even just a tad anti-feminist in parts e. Because this book came out ten years ago, quite a few of its arguments rely on traditional structures e. Despite these flaws, I would still recommend this book to anyone who needs a good slap of self-respect in the face. In the past, I have made the mistake of over-analyzing men's internal states and trying to figure out if a guy's wish-washy behavior could indicate that he likes me.
Now, I know not to settle for anyone beneath my standards and to thrive as an empowered, independent human who has several healthy, reciprocal relationships. View all 6 comments. Every single girl should read this book, and live by it!
Its a book that states the obvious to us girls, but we are too wrapped up to actually see the situation for what it is It just makes sense. If he doesnt call you, he's just not that into you, period. If youre making excuses for him, then hes not that into you. Thats true, and one that you may not even know that your doing.
I read this book several times, and began to live by it, which really means that I began to raise my standards, and not accept how men treated me sometimes, and all of a sudden it was not acceptable to not call when he said he would, and i soon realized when i was making excuses for them, like- well maybe he worked late, maybe he had an emergency, maybe this, maybe that.
I stopped doing all that, and had some self respect. And since then, I found an amazing man, that ive never ever had a doubt that he is totally into me! And thats what this book is saying, THATS how it should be, no doubts, no excuses, no tears, no sitting by the phone, no trying to "figure him out". Its so nice! View 1 comment. Feb 15, Peter Derk rated it liked it. Last night I went to do laundry at my apartment and all three washers were filled with fluid.
I'm not calling it "liquid. I guess it explains the locale more than the reading choice. I ALSO have to give a presentation about books that might help a person's business. And because you can only read so much of that shit before Last night I went to do laundry at my apartment and all three washers were filled with fluid.
And because you can only read so much of that shit before you pray to Krom for the strength to squeeze your own head and crush your own life to pieces, I wanted to throw in some other books that might help business-y people too. I figured, hell, maybe there's some lessons to learn about customer relations here. Maybe your customers are just not that into you. That's the excuse portion of the reasoning.
The other thing, I've found myself to be a man who, though kind, sometimes struggles making a lady feel really and truly wanted. So I thought, Maybe I'll see some glimmers of things in here that I do and try to avoid some of those pitfalls. I mean, let's face it, we all know our foibles.
Sometimes it's just good to see how other people deal with them, not to mention consider some alternative strategies. I'd be very embarrassed if anyone ever asked me how much I learned from skimming the 5 Love Languages. To borrow a phrase from every 4th grade in America: You're just a big girl, Pete. I need to stop asking 4th graders what they think of me and allowing them to respond via email.
Because business is boring, I just want to talk about this book in terms of relationships. To summarize the business advice gleaned from this and about 50 titles: If you work your ass off and do something you're passionate about as opposed to interested in using as a money pipeline, and if you can maintain a human level of empathy throughout, you have as good a shot as anyone.
If you open up a coffee shop but hate people and mornings, you're fucked. If you open up a comic store and love comics and the publishing industry, you're probably still fucked, but you'll have a good few years and you won't regret it. Think about it, very few people look back and say, "The one time I took a chance on something I really wanted, I totes regret that shit.
I gave this book a 3-er because it's written nicely. It's funny. It's light, and it does something tough in that it's acting as a wake-up call without being overly angry at the readers. Like any good artist, the writers here seem to take what they do seriously, but don't necessarily take themselves seriously. It's a good combo. This book is a roadmap for ladies to find a man to marry and be with forever. If that's what you want, then this might not be a bad choice.
Let me explain. The idea throughout the book is that a man will pursue a woman he is interested in. Therefore, if a man is not pursuing you, dear reader, then he's not interested. And yes, I agree with the idea that men, people in fact, don't want to dump anyone. Nobody wants to hurt someone else, calling to say what's wrong with them in order to break up. A lot of people, if they go on a date and find you repulsive for whatever reason, whether it's your personality or your weird butt or your political stance or that weird butt, or possibly a weird butt, a lot of people would rather just never call again then call and say, "You have a weird butt.
It's hurtful, being reduced to one weird part. So in a way, the authors are right. Where they go wrong is in saying that a woman should never, absolutely never, ask out a man, initiate a phone call to a man in early stages, or do any of that shit.
Because if he calls you, you know he's in. If he doesn't, he's not. There are a lot of problems with this. First and most obvious, ladies are advised to kiss goodbye their right to pursue people they like. The co-author says she was mad about this at first and later felt like it was empowering, that she was holding the cards.
I call total bullshit on that. Sadly, as a species, I don't think we're very good at giving people more rights, respect, or cred if they don't ask for it. Did women get the right to vote because men just felt like they were sweethearts and had earned it? Did white guys stop firehosing black people because they just sort of realized how fucked up that was? Are we working on gay rights in a painfully slow fashion without them making a peep about it? No, I don't think we've gotten a whole lot of anything without asking.
I say fuck that. Being asked out is empowering, but surrendering power is really not the way to gain more of it. Let's talk about the kind of person who will respond to this as well. Yes, you can be pretty certain that a guy who pursued you through hell and high water does like you. I'm not saying he'll never let you be topsies in the sex times I am so bad at sex that I do not know the terminology and constantly embarrass myself , but I'm saying that if you go by tradition A, don't be surprised if you attract a man who also subscribes to tradition A AND traditions B-K.
He won't be a wifebeater just because he wouldn't like being asked out by a woman. But hey, maybe you would like to be the breadwinner. Maybe you're into him staying home with a baby. Maybe you think he drives like a loser and prefer to take the wheel now and then. Fuck me, my mom would be so proud of me right now. Another thing. Isn't it everyone's goal to be with someone who they think, "Christ. Why is this person with me?
But in a weird, terrible way, saying to yourself that you feel like you lucked out big time. Sure, you've got good qualities. You've read a lot of Amazing Spider-Man. You have a vague sense of furniture placement rules. But come on, this partner could do a little better on some level.
With that in mind, you might get someone shooting way above his bracket, but in all likelihood you're going to get guys asking you out who are thinking, "She looks attainable. I recently met a good friend who told me how he started dating his wife. Basically, he was moving out of town, so he figured he'd just ask out the prettiest, nicest girls that he thought were way out of his league.
Because fuck it. He'd be gone forever, so why not go for broke? It worked, and they're married. They have kids. More than one for chrissakes. My point: Under normal circumstances, a guy isn't super likely to go for broke when it comes to asking out a girl he considers out of his league. Especially not a nice, realistic guy like this friend. The system in this book, it allows men to try and bat out of order, but not women.
You can't go after someone you consider out of your league. You just have to hope they come to you. That seems like a sad way to live. I rarely say this, but I think it applies to relationships.
It's not about getting what you deserve. It's about getting a little bit more. Last thing, and why I think the premise is flawed. This book makes an assumption. The assumption, that the opposite of a man who is interested and pursues a woman is a man who is uninterested and does not. That if Rule A is true, and Rule A states "A man who does not pursue you is not interested in you" then it's opposite is true, "A man who does pursue you is interested.
Or is the opposite a non-pursuer? I know, this sounds like the logic they use with Bizarro Superman. He flies backwards, feet first, but shouldn't he also be upside-down?
Or underground or something? I'm just trying to say that I think the opposite of a man who is not pursuing you is not a passionate, interested man that is. Take the signals, pay goddamn attention, but don't take any advice as gospel, especially when it's based on a "Men be all like this That's not science. That's just the experience of one man. And yes, many many people have written in and agreed with this book, however if you're thinking about this scientifically, most people who read this probably already suspect that He's Just Not That Into them.
That's why they picked up the book. So it stands to reason. They tell you straight-up that there are rules, but if you break them at the right time and the right way, you'll connect with someone on a different level. That's my advice, after reading this book. Nearly everyone I know has said that he or she doesn't want to be in a long-distance relationship. And nearly everyone I know HAS been after making that declaration.
It's simple. I don't want to be in a long-distance relationship with a woman. But that's A woman. When it comes to the question of being in a long-distance relationship with Anastasia I tried to pick a name associated with NOBODY I know, but if I remember I DO know one this is going to be extra fucked-up because it'll seem really, really pointed it's a different discussion. Rules are there for the masses, and they're broken by individuals.
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